Manners. I love manners. I love knowing, when my mind is in a whirl and my heart is breaking, that manners will at least enable me to function. I am a huge believer in teaching children please and thank you and holding doors and not interrupting and all of those other things we learned in kindergarten. I believe in practicing these things until they are as automatic as breathing.
My question today is how do you teach manners to an adult? I know someone who is my age or thereabouts. This person is educated and, I am sure, considers herself to be courteous. She is - to other adults.
A child in her presence, when asked to perform a task, is expected to perform said task. When the task is done, there is no acknowledgement unless, of course, it is done improperly. This person is not related to me or I would just tell them to get their head out of their nether regions and be polite.
So, how do I achieve two things? First, I want this person to be aware of how cold and distant they seem to the very people that they love. Second, I want the child to know that her efforts are appreciated, that her efforts are noticed, and that not everyone is critical of every thing.
disclaimer: for anyone who knows us, this is obviously NOT about my child. Her manners are impeccable.