Sometimes I feel like a dinosaur. Or like I was born in the wrong century. Or like I am so much more conservative than I ever intended to be.
Case in point:
I went to pick up my grandson at his church-run daycare today. His daycare is not at the Church that we attend but it is affiliated with his school.
In the parking lot was the car belonging to the childrens' pastor, a female. Her car had been decorated with the ubiquitous shoe polish windows, apparently by some of the youth group. There was a frame around the driver's side windshield and on the other side of the windshield? The words "sexy pastor" with an arrow.
Sexy pastor. Yeah.
I cannot, in my wildest thoughts, imagine putting this on the vehicle of any religious clergy and/or minister. More to the point, I cannot imagine any pastor/minister leaving this on their vehicle. I cannot imagine what the heck they were thinking or what the heck kind of relationship they have with the youth of the church.
So, what do you think? Do you think I am just being over-reactive? What would you do?
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That should be an oxymoron. The two just don't go together in my book either. What would I do? Gee, I don't know. If I saw the pastor get into her car, I might stop and ask her if that was necessary or acceptable. I might....
Inappropriate, but do we know for sure the pastor has seen it yet?
@Junebug, pastors (male and female) are people too, and hopefully their spouses think they are sexy! : )
No use asking me, I'm a non-theist.
I think that is totally unacceptable. It's actually far too provocative to have around the kids. How do the parents explain that one? But, I think you knew I'd feel the same way you did, right?
Hmmm...I have to admit that I'm confused since I know the people involved. Do you think that perhaps it was the youth pastor's vehicle instead of Pastor C's vehicle? Not that it changes it much, but I *can* see teenagers pulling a silly prank and putting "Sexy pastor" much like they would put "Sexy driver," without a thought.
I don't think it has much to do with the kind of relationship this "Sexy Pastor" has with the children.
I will say, however, that at this particular church, the dynamic of the youth group is very different than it is at your home church. I was in CCD classes as well as in the youth group at the church you're talking about. At the church where Little Man goes to daycare, drums were blasted during the service...youth pastors played basketball with us till midnight...and met us at the door with a friendly, "HEY GIRL! WHAZZZZZUPPPPPP?!?!"
I guess what I'm trying to say is that while I don't think the words shoe polished are appropriate, I don't think it should reflect on the pastor or his/her relationship with the teens because more than likely, he/she hadn't seen it yet and probably didn't request it be put on their car. The kids were probably just fooling around with a youth pastor that they see as a "friend." Is seeing your youth pastor that way such a bad thing?
i would roll my eyes.
but i woudln't do anything.
it's very silly. it's inappropriate. but it's not egregious.
my parents were pretty good, when i was growing up, at explaining things to me--the good, the bad, and the ugly--and helping me to make the right decisions and draw the right conclusions. you can't protect children from the world, you can only teach them how to protect themselves.
so i think that means that if Lil Man asks about the words, it becomes "a teachable moment."
Kim: I was thinking of "pastor" as an office, not a person who could be sexy.
I guess it's okay for a spouse of a pastor to call 'em Sexy.
But --- who uses shoe polish anymore, anyway. bwaa ha ha ha.
*I'm in the camp that think the kids were probably overstepping their boundaries with a clergy.
If it makes you feel any better, I'm 31, and that literally made my jaw drop. I think it's highly inappropriate. I wouldn't care if she looked like a super model or if her husband thinks that about her or any other number of factors -- I think it's inappropriate. But, maybe I'm a dinosaur too. I think it's stuff like being able to get away with things like that that has really chipped away at young people's view of respecting authority. It's all gotten too informal.
Okay, apparently I *am* a dinosaur. ;)
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