Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Unexpected Gifts

Today, unexpectedly, my daughter received a letter and pictures from her daughter and her daughter's adoptive family. Joy!

My daughter's daughter looks a lot like my daughter. This pleases both of us. This is the first time Juls has heard from the family since she moved to Texas from San Diego. I asked her how they knew how to find her after all this time.

She has been sending Christmas cards yearly along with pictures of the Moose. This is the first year they wrote back. God bless them.

This got me to thinking. As most of the people reading this blog know, my mother and I have been estranged for a number of years. The first year, I sent a Christmas card and she sent it back. My heart broke.

Every year since, I have sent a Christmas card. I have not put a return address on the card. This way, I do not have to know what she does with them. I can believe that she opens them and knows that I love her and, if she throws them in the fire unopened, I can believe that she opens them and knows that I love her.

My daughter knows that I do this with her grandma's Christmas card. My daughter, who has a good relationship with her grandma, has told me that Mom opens them and reads them. This makes me happy and also very glad that I continued to send them.

So, if you throw communciations out to your loved ones and do not receive a response, do not stop sending them. It's sort of like giving a gift. All you can do is send it. What the recipient does with it is up to them.

And sometimes, it's spectacular.


bichonpawz said...

What a beautiful post Sandy! I'm so happy for you all! Hope you had a wonderful holiday!!

Crown Princess said...

I can t not even begin to express teh joy and gratefulness i felt at receiving the letters and pictures. She has grown into a beautiful young girl and it is evident that her parents have raised her with love, kindness and a quality up bringing. I am proud to have given her my genes AND the opportunity to become who she has.

Pamela said...

I'm crying.
I didn't know about your estrangement with your mother.
Or about your adopted granddaughter.

You inspire me. . . to not take things for granted.

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